And I have realised that every good bye is tough…
When I did plays – as much as I loved opening night and all the grandeur and excitement; it was always bitter-sweet. There’d be no more rehearsals, no more swapping stories and gossip, no more long coffee breaks and bloopers. The family that we created would graduate and move on to their own lives. Of course we’d meet for shows , much like families meet for the holidays and we’d have the quick catchups and the familiar laughs but there would now be a distance and it would never quite be the same.
But then before you know it there’d be a new show and a new family and the closeness and bonds would be forged again.
When I started expanding Balancing Act, it became the same. Each person was hand picked and chosen and I made them family over time and every time one left there was a part of me that missed the relationship we shared and another part excited about the new person/ people I would meet.
I now know that life is a journey. You will meet many people on the way. People come in to your life for many reasons. Some to help you , even when you didn’t know you needed help; some to teach you lessons – even the harshest or hardest of lessons and once you receive the help or learn from the lessons they will leave you and move on as their purpose has been served.
However there will be a few who will stay on and on and on, because both you and them will keep learning, growing and helping each other. And these are the people that you will find over time, that you will learn to value and who will always have your back. These are the people who are on your journey with you- so you will never be alone.
These are the people you won’t say goodbye to.
Look for these people. Treasure these people. Love these people.
P.s. (Palat says)-: Every good bye has a hello just waiting to happen!
I really hate goodbye
They make me sad , I hate to cry
I question God and ask him why
I really hate goodbye
I don’t think it’s fair to let you go
My heart aches but I won’t say so
You made my life a better place
Without you there’s a huge empty space
My life has changed so many times
There’ve been ups and downs , diamonds and grime
And I’m not ready to change it all over again
But then again life doesn’t go to plan never tells me when
And so I hate goodbye or even see you soon
To me farewells make a person seem further than the moon
And so I mask my pain and hide my tears
I forget the love , hide all my fears
So goodbye my friend
This is the end
Of how we were and what we had been
It may seem final but that’s how it seems
I will always remember how we laughed and cried
Remember even when the sadness has died
And so I move on and love again and again
And the cycle repeats and I cry again
I really hate goodbye.
To start over…something must end. To say hello… sometimes we have to say goodbye.To laugh again…sometimes we need to have cried!
It’s so hard when things are over when we just keep holding on! I realised this when I produced my first set of shows and the run was complete and as everyone was about to go on stage , I was bawling in the bathroom not willing to let go. Since then ,it’s been 10 years and it’s still hard; but the public display of tears has significantly reduced and I’m learning to let go of incredible shows, amazing experiences and new found family to make way for even more incredible moments!
A lot of my girl friends are the same with relationships. Trapped with bad boyfriends, terrible husbands, abusive relationships- they aren’t even having a great time- but they’re scared of letting go- what if there’s nothing amazing in store for them next? What if this is as good as it gets? A friend of mine stayed with his cheating boy friend just because she was too afraid to actually go out and find someone again. “It’s too hard,” she told me ..”to start over!”
But even if we’re unwilling to change, scared to let go and holding on with all we’ve got- Life is way faster, smarter and trickier than all of us! Sometimes despite all our ‘clingy’ efforts , we’re going to have to change, have to let go, have to start over! And maybe the new is scary but may be it’s what we needed all along.
A perfect planner, I hated to lose control till I got sick and then paralysed and then suddenly had to allow nurses, doctors and family control of my choices, my life, my body! Suddenly in a moment, all that I was clinging to- my ridiculous plans, my naive thoughts on my career progress and my life ambitions had to be re-thought, re assessed and restarted overnight! And when you stop fearing the future and embrace the change then suddenly Life is an adventure and you can be part of an incredible journey. Had I resisted change, Balancing Act Productions (my company) would not be in it’s tenth year , I would not be married to my soulmate and best friend, and I’d never have walked again.
Sometimes Change makes all the right choices you were just too scared to make! Sometimes Change gets it right!