Auld Lang Syne

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And thus ends another year…and with it we try and put aside all the resentments and failures , all the broken relationships and heartaches and look towards a new dawn and a new year with all the excitement and promise it brings.

Last year was an incredible learning- with a new office, new colleagues, new clients and new challenges… it also brought out the stresses which come with every challenge- late payments, confused clients and impossible deadlines…being some of them.

What it did teach me, however was life changing in so many ways.

People are Just That-: It taught me that people were just people, not Presidents or Owners or VPs or Brand Heads… they were people who had bad and good days; people with insecurities, people with worries, stresses, commitments and failures. It taught me to look at them as such and with that my own view of companies and the people who work for them changed.

Go with Your Gut-: It also taught me to trust my gut- that sinking feeling when you’re not sure something is right. Don’t push it aside, trust it. It saves you from much heartburn and a few non-paying clients!

Be Proud-: Have pride in who you are and what you stand for. Pride in your work space and work life leads to better performances by the team

Set Deadlines-: Set deadlines for clients and for yourself… it keeps you more efficient and always makes for something to do at work.

Have fun @ Work-:With puppy at work it’s easy to have fun but remember work can be fun if you celebrate the small wins as much as the major victories. Celebrate the wins and the winners and make work a place where you work and play… just make sure the work/play division is correct tho 😉

Everything changes and every thing remains the same-: People change. You lose people. You ask people to move on. You gain people. People are the flavour of the month, the outperform everyone and then they stop. At the end of the day, count on yourself and your abilities and aim to be more consistent each passing day… that way while everything changes, you still remain the same- just a better version of the same!

Keep learning-: Every single person can teach you something- whether it’s what not to do or what to do…keep learning. I’ve met some of the laziest employees and the most fickle of clients and also met some of the most inspirational clients ever and seen some absolutely fabulous creative people… you can take something away from each meeting… and you should!

Let Go!-: Let bad employees and bad clients go. Don’t flog a dead horse… some relationships weren’t meant to work. Don’t hold on to people who make you/ your work miserable. There are many people who will work with you who you’ll be happy with and who’ll be happy with you… BELIEVE YOU ARE WORTH IT!

I take all this learning to the next year… knowing that each year will teach me more, trouble me more and amaze me more! I go in, cautiously excited and optimistic yet wary, but eager to learn all that 2018 has to offer.

Happy Holidays!

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The moment

The last few weeks have made me more aware than ever on how important ‘the moment’ actually is.

We all quote books like ‘The Secret’ and ‘The Power of Now,’ but actually living in the moment is so much harder and more focussed.

Think about it?

How many of you remember the high points and low points of last month, of last week or even of yesterday. In a world of automation, we have in a way, automated our lives as well. Like clockwork we continue through the daily maze like a experimental rat and continue on the rat race never ever pausing to take stock of the moment, to actually think and feel, to focus and remember.

Post Multiple Sclerosis , I have had to spend so much time focusing on understanding myself, and what I feel like, what I can do, what I can’t and how I must do / learn something that by force I have actually had to take pause and feel the moment.

It’s overwhelming. It’s larger than life. And it passes you by before you know it.

Stay in it.

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To all the liars out there…

I have been blessed over the last few years to have been able to eliminate the majority of the negative people in my life which has allowed more space for new, fabulous and positive people in…

These people inspire me to think every day. They inspire me to be better, do more, feel more and achieve more.

But every so often you’re given a blast from the past and are witness to some of the negative people you let go of and you are reminded about why they aren’t with you anymore. These are the people who will lie about you, will try and walk on top of you just to achieve some sense of achievement. And it makes me proud.

Proud that I left them.Proud that I did good.

I am without you for a reason.

I am sorry I still figure in your conversations. And you need to spin it, to make your self the  winner…!

I don’t need to spin anything any more.

I am surrounded by winners. I am surrounded by heroes. I am surrounded by people so incredible…I become a little more fabulous each day. I am surrounded by superstars and I don’t take anything away from them to make me feel better about my life cos it’s pretty perfect … especially now that you’re not in it! (sorry couldn’t risk the childish dig!)

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Today I feel good.

Start your day saying this.

Even on the days where everything hurts, nothing wants to wake up and where the bed is your only friend.

Today I feel good.

Say it when everything is going stupidly wrong and when no-one around you is even trying to make sense and all that you created or worked for is shot to hell.

Today I feel good.

When deadlines close in.When bosses are mean for no reason at all. When nothing makes sense.

Today I feel good…

Say it long enough and loud enough and guess what, you may just trick the universe in to giving you the most amazing day!

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Vote for…

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On the eve of the most divisive election with all the mud slinging and name calling I realised one thing… that regardless of who you are and what place you have reached there’s always someone (or in most of our cases, more than a few people) who will HATE you. Yes, the capitalised BOLD— H-A-T-E.

So there’s a progression I’ve realised now- there are the critics… previously critics were unbiased individuals who gave their honest (not paid for) opinion and we’d all read, follow and listen to their recommendations, because it came from a place of passion and honesty.

Then with the internet, overnight everyone became a critic. Then there were the paid critics and those who honestly just wanted to be contrary and suddenly you didn’t know who or what to trust any more…

And the really angry critics they became the trolls… they used their hate of people/…

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Vote for…

On the eve of the most divisive election with all the mud slinging and name calling I realised one thing… that regardless of who you are and what place you have reached there’s always someone (or in most of our cases, more than a few people) who will HATE you. Yes, the capitalised BOLD— H-A-T-E.

So there’s a progression I’ve realised now- there are the critics… previously critics were unbiased individuals who gave their honest (not paid for) opinion and we’d all read, follow and listen to their recommendations, because it came from a place of passion and honesty.

Then with the internet, overnight everyone became a critic. Then there were the paid critics and those who honestly just wanted to be contrary and suddenly you didn’t know who or what to trust any more…

And the really angry critics they became the trolls… they used their hate of people/ movies/ race/ religion or just of life to bully, abuse and critique anything and everything….

And the truly angry trolls , they became the haters…vicious, mean, hurtful and not bothering about anyone or anything at all…spewing a path of destruction and anger….

And in the midst of all this hate… sensitive souls, teenagers and people with hearts were actually getting hurt- there were those taking their lives basis hurtful posts or trolls… There were kids hurting themselves, being shamed online and searching for outlets to release the hurt and pain , finding none and then becoming trolls themselves… a terrifying spiral of the worst of human  nature.

A few weeks ago, someone posted on her timeline “I want to kill myself.”- that post got 43 likes- WHAT?

No-one asked/ posted why?People didn’t reach out… they didn’t ask what was wrong… they LIKED IT!

I called her and found out that she’d had a truly miserable day and spoke to her till she was done venting… but I realised that in this extremely connected online community , with it’s very mean lean… I think the only way to keep your sanity is to just believe your perfect…

I am not going to be loved by everyone. I may not even be liked by some…. and online since you don’t know me at all, or may be you do- you might hate, comment, troll or just dislike me…

I can’t change how you feel.None of us can.

So in the midst of all the mudslinging and hate, I realised most of us have it easy…we’re not trolled relentlessly or hated with an unbridled undeserved passion.. but we may still get hurt by the silly comment or the backhanded statement made by a ‘friend’… forgot about it.

We’re perfect just the way we are… and if they can’t see it… there’s something wrong with them…!

While USA Votes Hilary or Trump…

I say Vote for yourself… Give yourself the benefit of the doubt and lets the critics , even those inside your head take a break for a day- You are perfect.

VOTE YOU!

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Don’t compare!

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It was a world where all you had to beat was yourself…and then for those especially over-competitive souls , you had to beat your sibling or your neighbour and have the better car, the bigger house, the more glamorous vacation or be the first to marry!

And then came social networks and filters and suddenly you stopped competing or comparing your life to the 5 people you did know but now suddenly to the hundreds you didn’t!

They had the more interesting evenings, the better looking spouses , the more amazing vacations and even the more talented kids! They were ‘checking-in’ to more glamorous places, eating the most delicious food at the most expensive restaurant in the city or even luckier ,they were vacationing in far cooler cities ‘just for the weekend!’

And what you forgot was that under all the filters and the check-ins were normal, equally insecure…

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Don’t compare!

 

It was a world where all you had to beat was yourself…and then for those especially over-competitive souls , you had to beat your sibling or your neighbour and have the better car, the bigger house, the more glamorous vacation or be the first to marry!

And then came social networks and filters and suddenly you stopped competing or comparing your life to the 5 people you did know but now suddenly to the hundreds you didn’t!

They had the more interesting evenings, the better looking spouses , the more amazing vacations and even the more talented kids! They were ‘checking-in’ to more glamorous places, eating the most delicious food at the most expensive restaurant in the city or even luckier ,they were vacationing in far cooler cities ‘just for the weekend!’

And what you forgot was that under all the filters and the check-ins were normal, equally insecure people and like you, they too were probably comparing themselves to someone else, or maybe to you , even , and were not living up!

Maybe they were as insecure about your early night-ins because they didn’t have someone to come home to. Or were jealous of the fact that you were smiling for no reason at all… because they missed being carefree…

Maybe they’d have traded in portions of their lives to be exactly where you are now.

Happiness has always been the ultimate quest…. but lets get there our way instead of trying to run someone elses’ race for them!

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