Toxic Relationships

How many times do we know someone that or something is bad for us but we cling on to it persistently because of force of habit?

We know they’re wrong for us/ it makes us sad, unhappy, weak, angry… but we just don’t let it go…

And when we do let go…we mourn- as if we needed it, missed it ,wanted it. We mourn as if it was the best thing that happened to us when usually it was exactly the opposite! We cribbed the entire time and knew we were terribly fed up and disappointed in the situation but yet we don’t want to let it go.

Perhaps we’re suckers for punishment… or maybe we sympathise with those that torture us!

A friend in an impossible relationship was sticking on despite the relationship being totally toxic- he couldn’t let go. He left, it became hard , he went back- the cycle continued. He can’t escape or may be he doesn’t truly even want to. And the drama continues.

But to let go… to truly let go… is freeing. It’s amazing. It makes way for new opportunities, the joy of life and living again and complete freedom!

I used to make a lists of pros and cons and remind myself why moving on made sense but now I’ve found a new easier way- I allow myself to feel the loss- fully feel it, but for the day and after that I disconnect completely. I don’t allow myself to dwell or feel bad or get angry or allow the toxic person to have any emotion of mine because that would be energy I could rather use for something much more positive and I’d rather find people that would want that energy of mine and would be able to reciprocate!

This way I allow myself and the relationship the respect of fully feeling it; but also allow myself the respect of not sticking with something that drains me continuously. Just like they say, you can’t flog a dead horse, there’s absolutely no point mourning a toxic friendship/relationship.

Always remember you deserve happiness.

P.s. (Palat says)-: There are 7.7 billion people on this planet.You are going to find a few awful ones… but there are many many billion people left to meet!

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3 thoughts on “Toxic Relationships”

  1. On the most auspicious occasion of the appearance of the Supreme Personality of Godhead – Lord Krishna, I wish to offer my most humble obeisances

    May the all merciful Lord bestow His unconditional love, causeless mercy and divine blessings on you and your loved ones

    My prayers at His Lotus Feet, to ignite the fire of devotion in hearts of all devotees, to purify each consciousness by giving us the intelligence constantly

    Remember His glories,

    To give us countless opportunities to serve Him and to open the doors for us so that we can enter His eternal, all-blissful Spiritual Kingdom

    Wish you a very very very : Happy Janmashtami !

    हरे कृष्ण, हरे कृष्ण,

    कृष्ण कृष्ण, हरे हरे,

    हरे राम, हरे राम,

    राम राम, हरे हरे

    :

    yashoda maiya ki

    jai 🙂

    यशोदा मैया की

    जय !!!

    krishin bhagwan ki

    jai 🙂

    कृष्ण भगवन की

    जय !!!

    mumma papa

    aur meri sister princess

    ki jai 🙂

    मम्मा पापा

    और मेरी सिस्टर प्रिंसेस

    की जय !!!

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      1. = = = = 🕉 = = = =

        dearest mumma
        blessed papa
        sister princess divya didi
        & the empire …

        Om Surya e Namo Namaha

        त्वमेव माता च पिता त्वमेव ।
        त्वमेव बन्धुश्च सखा त्वमेव ।
        त्वमेव विद्या द्रविणम् त्वमेव ।
        त्वमेव सर्वम् मम देव देव ॥

        Tvameva Mata cha Pita Tvameva,
        Tvameva Bandhu cha Sakha Tvameva,
        Tvameva Vidya Dravinam Tvameva,
        Tvameva Sarvam Mama Deva Deva

        Tvameva Mata:
        You are my Mother, the Supreme One Without a Second,
        Who nourishes me with Divine Love and graces
        my life with Self-Respect
        (the perception of my self as the Soul-Self,
        and not just as a body, mind, intellect, or ego).

        Cha Pita Tvameva:
        And you are my Father, the Supreme Being Who protects me
        by raising my consciousness and transforming
        my mind into a receptacle of the divine;
        Who instills in me the sterling qualities
        of Divine Consciousness.

        Tvameva Bandu cha Sakha Tvameva:
        You are my True Relative with Whom
        I am eternally related as Atman (Soul-self)
        with Paramatman (the Supreme Self),
        and You are my Best Friend,
        my Eternal Companion and Dearest Confident Who will never leave me.

        Tvameva Vidya:
        You are the Divine Wisdom, the Essence of everything I know,
        everything I am learning, and everything
        I do not know but seek to understand and realize (actualize).

        Dravinam Tvameva:
        You are the Highest Wealth (Laxmi)
        and the Bestower of all the best things in this life
        and the next.
        You are the Source of everything good and the Bestower
        of all Resources we require for our physical sustenance
        and spiritual enlightenment.
        You are the Wealth of Wisdom
        and the Gift of Liberation (Moksha)

        Tvameva Sarvam Mama Deva Deva:
        You are All-in-All; You are Everything to me,
        You are the core of my being, the Heart of my heart,
        the Source of my Self, the Soul of my soul,
        the Ultimate Reality devoid of duality and partiality;
        Indivisible, Immutable, Immaculate, the Ultimate Knower
        and the Absolute Perfect Incomparable Supreme Being

        ओम् तत् सत्
        OM TAT SAT

        ओम् तत् सत्
        OM TAT SAT

        ओम् तत् सत्
        OM TAT SAT

        beneath the blessed feet
        of parents & elders
        is the truthful
        paradise of heavens

        Om Tat Sat
        meaning
        =
        The Supreme Absolute Truth
        All That Is

        🙂 Hari Bol !!!

        = = = = 🕉 = = = =

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