#RIP #GoneTooSoon #Heartbroken
All useless tributes that mean literally nothing once someone has passed. It’s not like he/ she can read the ‘love’, ‘the tributes’, or feel ‘the sadness.’ It makes us feel better, like we’ve done something – but in truth it means absolutely nothing!
Yet another life was taken this week- I say taken, because a person was so depressed he quite literally took his own life. And the conversation went back to depression and mental health and how little we value a person’s mental well being.
But here’s the thing, if we’re depressed , we’re asked to speak about it in hushed tones. We’re not allowed to feel sad or bad cause we’re perceived as weak and unstable. And who wants to be thought of as that? Work doesn’t come to the weak and unstable. People don’t want to share their lives with the weak or unstable. And depressed as you may be, it’s a spiralling sadness towards a drain of despair for you.
And it’s all very well to say ‘ask for help’ or ‘I’m there’ or ‘I’m listening’ but let’s be honest – are you truly there? Are you actually listening? And do you actually care? In our busy lives, more often than not when we ask-‘how are you?’ We expect ‘Ok,’ or ‘Fine.’ We don’t really want to know. It’s just part of polite conversation and we would prefer the quick and easy answer instead of actually giving a damn!
It’d just be easier if people didn’t kill themselves cos the ugliness and hypocrisy of society wouldn’t be so blatant for all to see.
But a couple of tweets and Insta pics later, we’ll forget all about it and casually ask ‘how are you?’ hoping for the short, quick and easy answer.
P.s.(Palat says)-: Let’s start giving honest answers when people ask how we feel… If they can’t deal with it, they don’t deserve to be in your life any way!